The Lives of the Silent

Stories of Quiet Courage and Connection

With a Foreword from Thomas Freeman, MS, BCBA

The silent—individuals with limited abilities to communicate—have historically been excluded from society. For too many, their homes were institutions or residential treatment centers. Their lives, heartaches, struggles, and triumphs were largely unseen, unheard, unknown, and undocumented. But their stories are worth telling.

Demonstrating a soul-stirring resilience, the silent speak to us through their actions, providing an underappreciated, honest, and revealing look into the human condition. The accounts in this book are lively snippets of the lasting, life-changing lessons that transformed my ideas about disabilities, as well as the progress that results from practicing the empathic, client-centered science of human behavior.

Of my many mentors, the silent were my greatest teachers. They set in motion a series of events that would change who I thought I wanted to be into who I am. Although these individuals could not write nor tell their tales, through these pages, their memories and truths live on. To honor the profound influence of the silent on my life, I share some of their stories here. I hope they will touch your heart and shape the way you view those who cannot speak for themselves.

 

Artie was 81 years old when I met him. A client in the agency’s group home, he was less than 5 feet tall, although with the slight hunch in his back, he looked even shorter. He was thin, with a tiny bit of white hair, and the normal aging spots and wrinkles of an octogenarian. He walked with a distinct, extremely short shuffle. Artie had no teeth, a tragedy that occurred during the days before patient rights were considerations. Apparently, he was a biter, and the institution prevented biting not through careful assessment and intervention but through extracting his teeth—all of them.

 

COMING JUNE 3, 2025

The Lives of the Silent Book Cover

People with limited speaking abilities have often been ignored by society. This book gives voice to some of their stories as a tribute to their incredible lives.

About the Author: 

Andrew Author

Andrew Houvouras is Director of Experiential Training at the Florida Institute of Technology. His research has appeared in the Journal of Applied Behavior Analysis, and he coauthored the best-selling QUICK Responses for Reducing Misbehavior and Suspensions. When he’s not writing and teaching to help shape the future of applied behavior analysis and education, Andrew cherishes time with his sons, Preston and Kooper, and his French bulldog, Poppy. He calls Cocoa Beach, Florida, home, where his passions for family and the ocean blend seamlessly.

 

Contained within these pages are not just the lives of 15 of the silent, kept hidden in the shadows of society and held within the loneliness of their own isolation until they could finally emerge through the love and care of others. These are the stories of us all.

Thomas Freeman, MS, BCBA

This book is a rare gift—heartfelt, beautifully written, and a powerful reminder of how much we have to learn from the autistic voices that too often go unheard. 

Dr. Amy Tanner, Adjunct Professor, Capilano University

This book is important on multiple levels. I highly recommend it for all in the field of applied behavior analysis and human services. For newcomers to applied behavior analysis or the broader field of human services, Andrew illustrates key behavioral principles through relatable examples drawn from real-world contexts. For experienced practitioners, he provides a candid portrayal of the work currently being done—without sensationalizing the behaviors of his former clients or casting himself as the hero of every success story. Just as he describes his clients' behaviors, he is equally transparent about his own. Each narrative delivers a powerful message: individuals with autism, intellectual, or developmental disabilities—though often non-speaking—are never truly “silent.” They communicated with him daily. They continue to communicate with us. The question remains: was he listening? Are we? While rooted in applied behavior analysis, the book’s core message transcends technical strategies or intervention models. At its heart, the author’s guidance is simple yet profound: remain grounded in the science—and above all, listen. In doing so, we honor the humanity of those we serve and connect it more deeply with our own.

Ron DeMuesy, MEd, BCBA, COBA